Embracing Imperfection: The Journey of Motherhood and Learning to Be Enough

As a mom, it often feels like everything you do is permanent, especially when it comes to your kids. You think about the times you lost your patience, like the time you cursed in front of them or the countless mornings you were late dropping them off at school. Or that night when you were too exhausted to cook and ended up giving them cereal or McDonald's. There was also the mistake of dating the wrong man, which led to becoming a single mom. And yes, I'll admit that there was a time when I snapped in frustration and made my kid cry over something as small as spilled milk.

Mama, you are not perfect. And one day, your child will understand that. Hopefully, they'll extend grace to you for your missteps. But here's what I want you to remember: your kids are resilient. All they need is your love and the safety of knowing they are cared for.

When I became a mom, I didn't feel ready. I was heading into my senior year of college with dreams that were all about me. I wasn't even interested in the idea of creating a family. So, when I found out I was pregnant, I was at a crossroads. I thought I could only have one: my dreams or motherhood. At that time, I was so focused on myself that I didn't even know who the father was—whether it was the guy I was casually dating or an old fling from Christmas break. I felt irresponsible.

But I chose motherhood. I knew that meant I'd have to sacrifice everything I'd worked hard for. I knew that being a Blasian woman at a predominantly white college would make me stand out, as if I were carrying a scarlet letter as I walked to class. But through all the uncertainty, I knew that this child I was going to have would change my life in ways I couldn't yet understand.

I took on the challenge, trusting that this child would be special. I prayed every day for my baby growing inside me—prayed that he would love God, that he would be healthy, happy, and have a great sense of humor.

Looking back, I can say, without a doubt, that even through the hardest chapters of my life, such as moving to LA with a 5-month-old, one of the most challenging cities in the world, I wouldn't change a thing.

So, through all my "mistakes," it brings me joy when people come up to me and tell me how well I'm doing as a mom or how great Kam is turning out. And even now, I still have moments of doubt—moments when I wonder if I'm doing enough. But I have to remind myself that I am enough.

As a mom, I've sacrificed through love to give my child the best life I can. And that is enough.

Through it all, I am enough.

As moms, we often hold ourselves to impossible standards. We put pressure on ourselves to be perfect, never to falter, and to get everything right. However, the truth is that our mistakes don't define us. What matters most is the love we give, the lessons we teach, and the example we set every day.

YOU ARE ENOUGH

So, if you're ever feeling like you're not enough, remember this: your heart is enough, your efforts are sufficient, and the love you give to your child is more than enough. Every step, every mistake, and every triumph is part of this beautiful journey we're on as mothers.

You are enough. You're doing a great job.